Mental Disorders

totaleuphoriaxx · Joined: 06 Jun 2007 Posts: 1 Location: New York

i was diagnosed with dependent personality three years ago, i also have mild psychosis, so i don't know if this problem has a connection to any of those. i find it hard to come to terms with this, but i think i might be masochistic. i am only aroused when i am subjected to physical pain, and when i am forced to absolutely submit. the person i am engaged to, however, is a very strict mormon, as i am supposed to be. i don't know what i am going to do about all of this...is there anyone that could possibly tell me if i am masochistic, and what i can do to treat it if that is the case?

tsihcosaM · Joined: 09 Jun 2007 Posts: 1 Location: Texas

Euphoria- I recently discovered that I am a masochist. I've had fantasies that are "socially unacceptable" since I was about 12 or so, and recently found a partner who was into similar stuff. I grew up in the Christian church, and still haven't really come to terms with were my urges and beliefs meet up, but have realized that as a masochist I can't have a serious relationship with someone who didn't know what I'm into and accept me for it. (When you do find someone like that, it is INCREDIBLE.) It's not related to the factors you listed, dependent personality and mild psychosis. Personally, I don't think that any kind of therapy or treatment can alter what arouses people, so my advice would be to share the issue with her before you get married. Being able to be open with your spouse is a huge factor in the success of a marriage, and, from my experience, when you are it is much more fulfilling than if you feel like you have to hide a part of yourself. By no means is it an easy thing to share with someone, but it is worth it. Best of luck bro.

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eraney_7 · Joined: 08 Aug 2007 Posts: 1

tsihcosaM, i am curious about how you have been able to accept this along with your christianity. i have not been able to reconcile the two concepts. i am a pastors son and have grown up in the church, and as far as i can tell (i have researched it some, but there isn't much info on it) the two are completely dichotomous. thanks..

youngmasochist · Joined: 25 Nov 2008 Posts: 1 Location: Sydney

hi, im 13 and for the past two years i have been having, as you said, "socially unacceptable fantasies".not even my parents know im a masochist.i really like being tied up. i don't know what to do. would it be wrong of me to ask someone to tie me up if i sneak out in the night and then let me go and i would sneak back into my room?

[quote="tsihcosaM"]Euphoria- I recently discovered that I am a masochist. I've had fantasies that are "socially unacceptable" since I was about 12 or so, and recently found a partner who was into similar stuff. I grew up in the Christian church, and still haven't really come to terms with were my urges and beliefs meet up, but have realized that as a masochist I can't have a serious relationship with someone who didn't know what I'm into and accept me for it. (When you do find someone like that, it is INCREDIBLE.) It's not related to the factors you listed, dependent personality and mild psychosis. Personally, I don't think that any kind of therapy or treatment can alter what arouses people, so my advice would be to share the issue with her before you get married. Being able to be open with your spouse is a huge factor in the success of a marriage, and, from my experience, when you are it is much more fulfilling than if you feel like you have to hide a part of yourself. By no means is it an easy thing to share with someone, but it is worth it. Best of luck bro.

one of Mikal's[/quote]