Mental Disorders

[sinsitymadness]

[b][size=18][/size][color=red][size=18][quote]Is it normal to want to blame others?[/quote][/size][/color]I get so angry, pissed & hurt because of the pain i have been exposed too & the mental and emotional head trips, by those who are suppose to love you, that Im not sure what to do?
My whole life, my Mother has shown me hatered. My ex-husband followed, by adding to the abuse, mental, phyical,(They both have weakened me over the years). As they reside again together, using my children as weapons to my heart, they now again threaten my well being. How, does anyone put aside the crap as though it never happened? I feel guilt, when they should be ashamed of what they have done. But, Im the one confused, aparently.... So they say, BECAUSE I ALLOW THEM TO GET TO ME.....It's not easy for me to deal with things they have corrupted, ruined and violated.
I am new here & not sure if this is a normal post.
But, please accept that I am not normal & must live with the fact i may never be. But, how does one learn to live with this disorder & attempt to function when your walls are being caved in around you? Is it wrong to hate those who take advantage? If not, why do I feel so stupid & guilty for not forgiving or trusting? Man, I have so much inside that just wants to tell them how i feel & i wish they would know what they've done & are doing & how it effects all those around me. Thanks, Madness [/b][b][quote][/quote][/b]

[seamusm]

Hello there,
To fully understand and appreciate the hows and whys of your feelings you may need to understand where they come from and hence how to reprogram how you view life and your role in it and most importantly the positive contributions you could make if you just had a little bit more of a specal something.

You are a vehicle for those people's insecurities and vulnerabilities. They have used you to try and rid themselves of their faults by making you feel that you are worthless and that you have nothing positive to give, because that is how they were made to feel.

The road to better self belief and self esteem is a long one but you can get a start by taking the first step now, would you like a hand?

Regards

By the way you missed out an important option on your poll.

C: Ignore them as fixing the blame never fixes the problem!

[rwhaan]

I have some of the same feelings, people take advantage of me and expect me to do things for them and at the same time they belittle me, prevent me acheiving my goals and basicly treat me like I am stupid.

[Warrigal]

I concur with Seamusm,

and
It is very valid to be angry. Anger is an emotion, just like all the others. The only difference is how the energy of the anger is released, for example, you might want to do phsyical damage to those you hate, (Bad Idea), you might take it out on yourself, (Bad idea).

So might transfer that energy into re-reacting yourself, (good idea).

My suggestion is to see a counsellor, a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist.

Best of luck