Mental Disorders

[LQ67801]

This is my first post on this forum. I once had a psych evaluation and was told that I had this disorder, but I did not seek treatment because of the time and expense involved. That was 10 years ago. I've been reading descriptions of this disorder and I can identify with several of the symptoms. I've never been able to make friends for as long as I can remember. I just can't connect with people. I generally prefer to be alone and have no interest in being close to my relatives. I know I'll never have a normal life and will probably never have a relationship with anyone. I've tried, but they've failed miserably. I know I should probably get help, but again, it's kind of hard because I work full-time and who knows how long therapy would take. I guess I just wanted to see if there's anyone else out there who suffers from this disorder and how you manage with daily life.

[Kristi620]

I think the fact you are asking for help or inquiring in this forum is a good start. I'm pretty sure my husband has a personality disorder. I just posted a description of him to see if anyone had suggestions on what he might have. I thought he had schiztypal or schizoid.
Back to you... if you want a relationship, you're going to need help. Women NEED an emotional attachment. She can love you for all your other differences.... but you have to be able to show her you love her and communicate with her. If you're willing to work at the issues, you have a good chance of finding a relationship.

[Erika244]

[color=indigo][/color]To the person inquiring about others with schizoid disorder. Welcome to the club. I just found out there is another name for me!

[Bloppo]

From the way you talk LQ, it seems as tho you're setting yourself up for some self-fulfilled prophecies. With every advantage there's a disadvantage and likewise the other way around. I don't see it so much as suffering as much as I see it as an advantage over those who aren't this way. There are a lot of philosophers who say it's better to be detached. Have you ever read Allison Himelick's paper about schizoids ? It's not a disorder unless it's bothering others.

[H4U2C]

HI THERE, what meds {if any} are you being prescribed?

[Paula@odds]

New to the forum but really need someone to communicate with. I have been married ( if you can call it marriage) to a diagnosed schizoid PD for 13 years. A constant and lonely battle. I am emotionally still alive ( barely) but live in a world of no communication, warmth, humor, love, emotion. Very difficult. I am basically the emotional and physical support of my 3 children. Husband can not/will not look at the issues he brings into this and blames everyone else for the misery in our lives. I am at the end of my rope. Someone please help me understand how to deal/live with him. It is so hard to live with someone who has SPD.
I once asked a psychologist how to deal/relate to someone with SPD and the answer was " You Don't".

[kirablue]

LQ, Many therapists have weekend & evening appointments, many people who work are in therapy. What does it matter how long it takes? The time will go by either way, and at least if you are in therapy you will make some life changes.
Paula, I have schizoid features (and borderline personality disorder). Your husband is probably not doing some things on purpose, but on the other hand he does have some control. I am sure you can find a therapist who will help you. The psychologist you talked to is dead wrong. I am in therapy and it helps a great deal. Maybe in time you and your husband could go for couples therapy.

[nysmewmew]

Honestly, I think I have that disorder because I have most of the symptoms for it. I've never been evaluated by a doctor or anything but I feel that I have it because I have a tendancy to be emotional cold, detachment or reduced affection, I dont express either positive or negative emotions towards others. I mostly enjoy solitary activities & prefer to be alone, also Im indifference to either praise or criticism not to mention preoccupation with fantasy and introspection. How can I find out if I truely have it, besides going to a shrink & if thats the only way, anyone know someone?

[Zack]

I think If you focus on your work, you can be succesful and content with this disorder. I replace connecting with people with other activities\interests ( collecting wine, playing music ). I`m not sure that having failed in past relationships means you can never have them again but I also don`t know the extent of your condition. I actually would like to know just how we cross the line to this disorder. I don`t know exactly how far I am. I always see that list of symptoms and I have them but to what extent does one become schizoid?